Finding Your Goldilocks Menopause Specialist

If you’ve ever left a provider's office feeling unseen, unheard, or downright dismissed, you already know that finding the right menopause specialist can feel like hunting for a mythical creature. Someone who actually understands the science and listens to you like a human being? Rare.

But let’s meet three familiar characters you might encounter along the way.

🧊 The Rigid Rita

Rigid Rita has been doing this for years. She knows every guideline by heart and can quote them faster than you can say “vasomotor.” She’s read all the position statements and will happily recite them to you.

The problem?If you happen to fall outside her textbook examples, things get… tense.

Bring up a symptom that doesn’t fit neatly into her flowchart, and she may grow impatient. Suggest trying something that isn’t yet FDA-approved for menopause symptoms, and you’ll get a look that says, “How dare you?”

Rigid Rita isn’t a bad clinician—she’s just stuck inside a box. Unfortunately, if you don’t fit inside that same box, you’ll end up right back where you started: dismissed and frustrated.

💸 The Capitalist Kevin

Then there’s Capitalist Kevin.

He’s noticed that menopause care is having a moment. He’s read the headlines about millions of women not getting the help they need and thought, “Jackpot!”

Kevin doesn’t care about evidence—he cares about revenue. He’s the guy offering “comprehensive hormone panels” that cost a small fortune and don’t actually change your treatment plan. Or pushing every pellet, pill, and potion with zero attention to safety or dosing.

When you ask why he’s recommending something, you get buzzwords like “optimization” or “balance,” but never a clear explanation. His plan is one-size-fits-his-wallet.

🌿 The Goldilocks Gloria

And finally, there’s Goldilocks Gloria.

Gloria knows her stuff. She’s familiar with every major guideline and the gaps those guidelines leave behind. She’s taken advanced menopause training, understands how to dose and monitor hormone therapy safely, and keeps up with the latest data.

But here’s what makes her different: she also knows where the research runs thin.

She knows there are zero randomized controlled trials on treating perimenopausal women with ADHD.

If you tell her, “I have endometriosis and mast cell activation,” she doesn’t sigh or suggest it’s all in your head. She says, “Interesting—you’re the third patient I’ve seen with that combo this year. Let’s dig into the data together and figure out what might help.”

Gloria blends science with flexibility, data with empathy, and guidelines with real-world experience. She knows that evidence-based care doesn’t mean cookie-cutter care.

The Takeaway

The “Goldilocks” menopause specialist is out there.

She’s not the rigid rule-follower or the opportunistic trend-chaser. She’s the clinician who sees you as a partner, values both your lived experience and the data, and helps you find a plan that’s just right.

Because menopause care shouldn’t be about fitting into someone else’s box—it should be about finding the person who’s willing to build one that fits you.

👩‍⚕️ Ready to Find Your Goldilocks Clinician?

Join me for “Finally! Your Guide to a Non-Sucky Menopause Visit.”

In this one-hour live workshop, you’ll learn how to:

• Spot the Rigid Ritas and Capitalist Kevins before wasting your time or money

• Ask the questions that reveal whether your provider is Goldilocks-level good

• Walk into your next appointment confident, informed, and ready to be heard

👉 Save your seat for the workshop and take the first step toward menopause care that actually fits.